The Every-Day Guy Beginner’s Guide to Choosing Your First Sex Toy, According to An Actual Expert

Perfect picks for first-timers!

BY: Rachel Khona
UPDATE: April 14, 2024

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Rachel Khona is our resident Men’s Lifestyle editor where she brings more than 10 years of editorial experience writing, reviewing, and recommending sex toys for just about everyone under the sun. Rachel’s sex toy articles can be found on major publications like Maxim, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Bustle, Style Caster, Playboy, Penthouse and more. This time she’s reviewing and recommending sex toys for guys that are newbies to the scene.

Deep diving into the fantastical world of sex toys is like being a kid in a candy store – exciting, but overwhelming. For men who are new to the sex toy game, it can be tricky to know where to start. Butt plug or nipple clamps? Cock ring or vibrator? The options are endless. Fret not, dear sir, we are here to clear the air. Here are five newbie-friendly options that promise to add a dash of spice to your solo or partnered playtime. Let’s jump in!

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Ye Old Cock Ring

best option to last long

Want to last longer than you ever have? A cock ring will make your penis feel like a superhero in the bedroom. These handy little rings help you maintain a longer-lasting erection by slowing blood flow out of your penis – a perfect pick for those with erectile dysfunction. Or those just looking to last longer. Extend playtime with this simple little device and watch the fireworks explode. Try the Tor II Vibrating Cock Ring from LELO. Crafted from soft silicone, this ring also has a vibrator on top to stimulate your partner as well. The vibrator has not one, but six different settings, depending on how you and your partner like to get down. If you want a little extra spice, the Lovehoney Bed Ringer Rechargeable Double Cock Ring features two rings, as well as a textured top for added stimulation.

Ye Old Masturbation Sleeves

best for going at it alone

For those days when you want to embark on a solo adventure, a masturbation sleeve, aka stroker or pocket pussy, is your best friend. These toys are designed to imitate the sensation of vaginal, oral, or anal sex, allowing you to bowchickawowow whenever the mood strikes. Sure you have your hand, but these sleeves take it to the next level. The OG icon is, of course, the Fleshlight Pink Lady. The exterior is shaped to resemble a vulva, while the inside features a tight, ribbed interior to enhance stimulation. However, if you’re looking for something less life-like and a little more high-tech, the Tenga Flip Zero Luxury Male Masturbator features a one-way valve for superior suction and heightened sensation.

Ye Old Prostate Massagers

best for your p-spot

Explorers aren’t just for outer space – they’re also for your butt. Embark on a journey with one destination – mind-blowing pleasure. Prostate massagers, otherwise known as P-spot massagers, are designed to stimulate the nerve-packed prostate gland, leading to some seriously intense orgasms. They are inserted into the rectum and designed to arouse the prostate specifically. For something simple to start with, try Anal-Ese’s Rotating Prostate Massager. Curved to hit your P-spot, this will help you get the party started. To heighten the pleasure, snag LELO’s Hugo Prostate Massager, so you (or your partner) can control the vibration with a remote control.

Ye Old Butt Plugs

best for anal enjoyment

Good old butt plugs – they can be a thrilling experience for anyone interested in anal pleasure. Use it solo or with a partner. Either way, they offer a unique feeling that can enhance excitement. Don’t forget the proper lube is vital! No one wants chafing in their butt hole.

Unlike prostate massagers, butt plugs tend to be straight as opposed to curved. For those who like some ass play, there’s a whole variety of new plugs out there. This isn’t your grandpa’s butt plug. The b-Vibe Remote Control Rechargeable Vibrating Rimming Butt Plug comes with a remote control making it fun for couples as well as solo practitioners. With nine vibration settings, it can last up to 1.5 hours on a single charge.

Ye Old Penis Pumps

best for getting bigger

Penis pumps are more of a sexual prep toy, but they can help you get ready for the main event. Penis pumps work by using suction to increase blood flow to the shaft, helping you become boner-ready. The increase in size and firmness is temporary, so there is no need to worry that you’ll stay erect longer than necessary. However, using these devices as instructed is imperative to avoid discomfort or injury. The Renegade Powerhouse Penis Pump is rechargeable via USB, and it’s automatic. Just press a button and watch the magic happen. If you prefer something a little more old-school, the Penis Pump in a Bag requires manual pumping to get the action going.

So there you have it – five fun and beginner-friendly sex toys to kickstart your journey into the world of pleasure. Whether you’re flying solo or exploring with a partner, these toys will surely add a dash of excitement to your bedroom escapades. So go ahead, embrace your curiosity, and let the pleasure begin!

Rachel Khona

Rachel is one of our Men's Style + Grooming contributors here at Brostrick.com, where she uses her unique sense of humor (that we love) combined with her love all things style and, well, ridiculousness to connect to our readers. Rachel has written endless articles at major publishers like AskMen, Maxim, Playboy, Thrillist, The Washington Post, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Elle Magazine, and so much more. Read full bio.

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